Acceptance Maybe?

Speaking of acceptance, my sister and I have since continued to get along very well since I came out to her. We've always maintained close contact where ever I was in the world, and it's only gotten better. I can talk about my relationship with Kay and don't feel too awkward about it, only wondering if she's feeling awkward, but she always makes a point to hug me and has opened up more about her relationship with her guy, not that she wasn't very open before. I guess I'm more relaxed and coming out has kind of knocked down a wall and revealed a more relaxed facet of my personality which definitely shows. She was my primary worry when coming out but my fears were soothed and are now a lost concern. I consider myself very blessed for this.

But this post isn't about me and my sister. It's about acceptance from Kay's family. I think we have it! Her mom never fails to ask about me whenever they talk, and seems so excited about our friendship lol. So much so that it makes me laugh. Her mom has known about me since I was married, knows when I got separated and the finality of the divorce and about the kids. Everything really. So Kay was talking to her recently and she asked Kay if I could there to see her while she was in her city and was sad that I couldn't. She wished she'd been able to come while I was up there visiting Kay. Moving along, Kay told her I'm going back to school... her mom was so proud of me! Mum asked who from her family would marry me (because I've done so well), and Kay said she would. Her mom was like really? Kay was like yes, she'll marry me, come live with me and invite her mom, and her mom not missing a beat, asked what time? LOL! She told Kay that she should buckle up and stay loyal and good to me because she knows her friendships don't usually last long. My jaw dropped at that, lol. Her mum sounds so cool. I'm really surprised because it's not common, coming from that kind of traditionalism and culture.

It went on like that for a little bit and lots of laughs were had. Kay admitted to me she got a little jealous because her mom seems so crazy about me, lol. We both came to the conclusion that her mom is just happy because she can hear Kay's happiness when talking about me and knows her daughter is in good hands. We still wonder a little if it will still be as well accepted when it comes down to the wire, a wedding ceremony and all. Her family like her sisters, cousins and in laws accept me (as a close friend at the very least) and seem to genuinely like me and that makes me happy. Her sister has even referred to me like they would a male beau. They're good Christians, and just generally really good people. I pray it continues this way because family is so important to Kay, but not so much that it would jeopardize our relationship if they didn't accept us. It just makes things easier and creates less stress and heartache all around. I'm very much heartened by this recent conversation and can't wait to see where things go when her mom visits her city. I've been pursuing Kay the way guys somehow culturally would and think that has made an impression on her family.

I don't think it is really necessary for them to directly say, "We accept you and Kay as a couple." I feel like they've said it in a thousand ways and I'm embracing that. For some people, this is more than one could hope for. And I'm happy with it. :-D

I love her so very much.

On another note, I told my little brother who usually talks quite a bit before I left, and thought it would be all over the family when I returned but that doesn't seem to be the case. It doesn't look like he said anything. If he did, everyone is just keeping quiet about it and watching and waiting for some evidence lol. I do mention a friend often and someone (an in law) probed like, well whoever he ish, mo jo or whatever is...so I said it's not a guy and chuckled at their obvious probing. I know everyone was all ears lol.

We'll see where it all goes but I'm quite happy with things at this point and just very grateful.