I love her. I mean, I really do. There's no but coming. I just want to know if I'm doing such a great job making her feel great about her body or she just has so much going on she let herself gain weight. I know...I said it, and it feels rather taboo because I should love her just the way she is and I do. But she's aware of it and has even pointed it out to me and is working on it. I don't know whether to ask after her progress by way of encouraging her or cheer her on, because doing so could be interpreted as not being attracted to her the way she is. She's already a jealous person, and can sometimes be insecure, neither of which I mind because I'm ready to give her all the reassurance she needs.
I don't know. I'm just thinking out loud and honestly here. It's a little hard sometimes because we're in a long distance relationship and while I'm not the sort who looks at other women like that, it can be a challenge. I don't even know where I'm going with this.
I guess I just miss her.
Saturday, February 21, 2009
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Most of my girlfriends gain weight while they're with me. Somewhere between 15-40lbs. Seriously. If I'm hearing (reading) you correctly, you're fine with her. That makes this her issue. Only mention it if she does. If she stops mentioning it, stops working on it, but still seems happy, then love her new body the same way you loved the old one. She may only be mentioning it to you to because she feels like you're going to say something about it. She's trying to beat you to the punch....
ReplyDeletegood loving makes you gain! i looked in the mirror like OMG! ever since me and my gf got together i packed on the pounds! she is still loving on me nonetheless and tells me she loves me just the same...im still sensitive about it though. its a fine line to walk.
ReplyDeletei guess its best just to encourage healthy habits instead of the weight. i am starting to walk more and watch what i eat...bringing a lunch from home helps me too. just encourage her and support her and let her know you love her no matter what.
Alix-Grr, I wrote a response to your comment on my phone and I see now it didn't go through. I found in interesting that your girls gain weight when they're with you, and wondered why. I think Tami answered my question! I think you're right in that she mentioned it to beat me to the punch. I would never have said anything about it, because I love her just for her. And I will love her new body the same way I loved the old one. It's her heart and personality I love anyway. Besides, I still think she's hot.
ReplyDeleteTami- You answered my question! I wondered why this might be happening..and it's certainly a compliment to know my good loving is that good. I guess it's better than being in a stressful relationship and losing weight and looking haggard. I recall that in some periods of times and countries, it was considered a status symbol to have a healthy well cared for woman as your wife because it's reflects on how you take of her and your wealth. I'll take that compliment any day.
I'll be sure to be sensitive to her feelings and encourage healthy habits. She plays soccer at least once a week making for great legs :-).
I know this last year with me in my situation affects her dramatically too, not to mention the sudden move six months before we expected it, so I'm taking those facts into account too.
Thanks for your replies ladies!