A Challenge I Face.

I learned recently, from his mouth to my ear he,The Man (my now ex husband) is going to fight with everything he has to get custody of the kids if I get married, committed or otherwise to a woman (or man, but that isn't even a remote possibility). He seemed bolstered by all these cases he must have read online about gay parents (usually lesbians) losing custody to their heterosexual spouse.

What brought it about was me asking how his wife is doing (she's pregnant), because it just seemed like a nice thing to do. He said he guesses she's alright, that they don't talk much. And goes on to say that he is still thinking about divorcing her and taking their future child because- his words- "he can easily do that in his country, but can't here in the US which is why they're still here."

Uh. Right. Everything was said so casually it was almost comical, but that was some heavy passive aggressive shit.

Then he, not so passive aggressively says I might want to start preparing my defense and sourcing a good lawyer because he is surely getting custody if I marry again, especially with my lifestyle.

Um...what lifestyle? So I happen to love women...otherwise I'm as straight laced and responsible as they come. I told him that was good to know because I plan to look for a wife someday. He said he'll get his children, I said key word is Try.

All this while we were strolling around the mall like this picture perfect family (me maybe his questionably gay daughter, lol.) However casually it was said, I am not taking those words lightly. Right now we share 50/50 custody because he's forced to. As in, there's no way in hell he can get out the US of A with these kids without serious penalties, like never seeing them again. I made sure of that.

I am not sure if he knows I'm still seeing Kay, but I'm sure as hell not letting on about it.

I've considered a few times in the past few weeks letting the kids vacation in Africa for the summer with him and his wife, but after today that idea was atom bombed.