I was unexpectedly in Loc's city one day to see a friend who was visiting from another country and told her I was in town. I almost didn't want to, because really it was unexpected and I wouldn't have worn what I was wearing if I'd known. Anywho, we met up. I let Kay know immediately and she sounded cool about it (not that fake kind of cool, but really cool. Oscar for that one!), so I went ahead. The inevitable happened. She being her own boss, took time off and we went to her place and in spite of visitors...it did what it did. And then to be closer to where the friend was, we went to her office. It was interesting to say the least. I am sure Kay was thankful that we both had aunt flo visiting, so nothing below the waist happened. But, I did discover a girl can erm *cough* through oral breast play alone.
Don't bash me for that one on Kay's behalf!To this day it still occasionally comes up with Kay. I never asked for details on her encounter but she told me all...I didn't bug out because as crazy as I am about her, it was a mutual decision. We got back together about two weeks after that. She says she had run her girl off the day after what happened with them, but the girl was insistent and practically stalking her. I still just looked at Locs as a friend despite getting physical, so I didn't feel there was anything to break off. Locs knew I was back with Kay and planned to marry her if she'd have me. I was straight with her and told Kay I had been. Still Kay wanted me to explicitly tell Locs it was over. It was the weirdest conversation telling someone it's over when it never really was lol.
While all this was happening, Kay as my 'friend' would tell me I have a player's heart. The best kind of player in that I can openly be dating two girls at once who know. But That has been my one and only encounter with anything like casual sex, if you can call it that. I can tally everyone, I mean everyone I have ever been with up on one hand. Not for lack of opportunity, even being married...I just can't sleep with or even kiss anyone for that matter that I don't have some deeper feelings for. With this one, Locs and I were good friends with a lot in common and a clear understanding of what was what.
Coming full circle to the first paragraph of Part I , I think Kay thought I might have been talking to her.
From this, I've learned to appreciate Kay and the connection we have, a hell of a lot more. I'm mad crazy about her.
*Note: I subtract this time period when figuring out how long Kay and I have been together.
Sometimes I read your blog and feel like we're exactly the same person. Despite the obvious differences, like our location, I can relate to so many things you write...
ReplyDeleteyeah, i can't do casual sex. as a matter of fact, i don't want anyone but my gf. i am so happy with her and only her.
ReplyDeleteAlix-This is why sometimes I don't even have a comment in put under somethings you write. I feel like you've said it all, lol.
ReplyDeleteTami- That's so wonderful that you have that kind of love and satisfaction with your girl. I still get a little grief over that thing with Locs but there's no one who fits me like Kay. :-)