At Last?

I don't know where things will go now, but I held my ground and said I'm not sending the kids over to him. He went from refusing to support them at all because I was forcing them away from him, to saying he will full take care of only them, to now saying he will fully support us as long as I raise them as muslim and move back to the city we were living in prior to Africa. There is an Islamic school there, whereas here in my hometown there isn't.

Soo, it looks like things might be looking up at last. I know I will have to keep putting on a bit of a front when I pick up and drop the kids off at school because I do not want death threats or at the very least pitying or angry looks. As much as I don't tend to care what people think, I do not want my kids treated any differently because of me. I can do my own thing any other time. He put a condition on me still being muslim and still expecting me to cover, but I know he can't reinforce that and he will only be visiting like for a week every three months. I could always refuse his support but he doesn't want his kids on any kind of assistance when he is more than capable of taking care of them, and he doesn't want to get in trouble with the law. He almost did not get let into the US when we came here and I suspect they might eventually stop him altogether because he has residence but is not living here. Maybe this situation works out for him because his name will be on an apartment and he can always show bills and things he is paying even though he's gone for months......chit. That just occured to me as I typed it. He could be using this to suit himself and keep his green card while making it look like he is doing me a favor.

I wouldn't put it past him at all. This means I don't have to feel like I'm taking advantage of him because darn it, he's sure as heck benefitting big time too. Without that green card, he can't do business contracts for his company over here or see the kids...like ever again unless I'm nice enough to come with them.

Hmmmm.